It doesn’t have to be the New Year to decide you need a Fresh Start! This is not to say that the “You” you presently exist in is not beautiful or not perfect enough. Of course it is. However, if you do not feel like you are thriving. If you do not feel as though you are expanding within your present existence- you are probably right!
There is a great deal of talk about the importance of Compassion recently and how people are dealing with loneliness, isolation and unhappiness. I agree, but I also believe that it is up to us to maintain our own happiness. It is up to us to Choose where we focus our energy and it is truly our Job to monitor our thoughts and devote ourselves to making sure we do our due diligence by taking care of ourselves. That is our homework!
Recently I read a quote from the famous spiritual guru and author, Eckhart Tolle. —It said: “Accept -then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.“ As if? I was taken aback by this advice and disagreed with this counsel. If we believe that our lives are an external and that we have no power to change our reality, there is an element of victimization within this type of philosophy. How can this attitude truly “miraculously transform” our lives if we do not understand that so much of our daily existence is our own personal creation?-our own personal dream, if you will.
Respectfully, we must all deal with the unexpected- some of which is terribly painful and even tragic. I am not foolish enough to presume to advise on life’s biggest challenges. However, what I am talking about-is our everyday existence and how it is our responsibility to make it the Best that it can be. May I remind you…we will not live forever. There is no time to waste. We are all going to die. Why not make the most of the time we have left?
Here are some Tips to help you shortcut this Process of overcoming your loneliness, isolation and powerlessness.
1) Take Care of your own BOAT.
Understand that you must Focus on Yourself and your own needs. Women are notorious for not taking care of themselves and focusing on everyone else. All this does is run down your battery charge and you become unaware of how you, yourself, feel. If your “Boat” your personal Vessel, is not in good repair-you cannot truly help anyone else. Take care of Yourself, first. If your Energy is good, if you are healthy and well-you are better in every aspect of your life.
2) Manage your Thinking-What are you constantly thinking about?
Understand your Feelings come Directly from your Thoughts. What you think about Most, you begin to create. That is the Good news and the Bad news I am afraid. Just bear that in Mind and act accordingly.
3) Stop Being Self-Critical.
Know that you are doing the very Best that you can in that moment. If you decide you want to improve -then do it. But don’t spend your time putting yourself down and lowering your Energy and making yourself sick. You are allowed to make a mistake. You do not have to be PERFECT. It is okay…Start again, when you are ready.
4)Stop being overly Judgmental and Critical of Others.
This type of thinking is a waste of precious and excellent energy that you could be using to Attract more Money, more Romance, and better Health. Let It Go like the song. Stop Policing everything and everyone. Mind your own Business-it is better for YOU and your job is to take good care of yourself. 🙂
5) Focus on the Feelings you Do want to experience in your Life.
What would you do if you knew you could not Fail? What would you do if time and money were of no concern? Focus on what relationships and things you want to have in your life. Do not constantly focus on what you Do Not have. You are only reinforcing that. If it is difficult-then strat with just one thing you would do if you knew you could not fail. Say” it is Easy” do not say it is “Hard”. Your Brain will believe you!
6) Formalize what you want to Create.
Write it down. Make it Official. Write it out as if you already have it. Know that the Universe is like a giant copy machine. Your affirmation could be” I AM happy and Grateful now that I have…” As my beautiful and brilliant Masters’, Old Master, would always tell her… Live your life backwards...as if it already happened. This is the energy of Gratitude, in advance, as the Native Americans would say.
Thank you for reading. I would like to leave you with one of my very favorite quotes from one of my very favorite minds, the genius Ralph Waldo Emerson:
” Every Spirit build itself a house;and beyond its house a world;and beyond its world a Heaven. Know that the world exists for you; build therefore, your own world.”
Good luck and remember to smile have some fun today!
All my love,